Finding Daily Inspirations: Healing Negativity with Daily Inspirations

“Did you ever wonder how some people seem to thrive on negativity, when negativity is poison to the soul and mind?”

Patrick Z.

A special friend of mine wrote this question on his Facebook page, and I have given some listening time to his question.

Human beings are frightened most severely by separation and abandonment. It is worse than the fear of death. If a person feels alienated and forsaken enough by others, he or she will actually induce death – kill themselves – in order to avoid consciousness of their abandonment – and resulting shame.

So, human beings fear consciousness as much as they do separation and abandonment and greater than they fear death. The pain and fear and shame of conscious separation from others, ourselves and our God is overwhelming and torturous.

When we become afraid of the possibility of an undesirable outcome – possible impending abandonment – our brains involuntarily constrict our feelings by injecting mass quantities of thought into our emotional experiences. As this constriction tightens, one of the advanced stages of suppression is major resistance to external events and relationships – anger and rage. Our brains will resist and then discharge painful energies as negativity – criticism, judgement, abandonment of others, and ultimately of ourselves.

Negativity is a symptom – not the problem. So, if we try to stop being negative, and try to be positive, we fail – or worse the constricted wounded energy ricochets back inwardly and we bludgeon and mutilate ourselves.

People “thrive”, as Patrick said, because their brains are involuntarily using negative discharges of energy as a means to avoid consciousness – painful separation, abandonment, and shame. Negativity is one of the many “drugs” that the brain uses to give us relief from incredible loneliness and pain. Humans “thrive” on it because it is how we are surviving our disease of humanness.

And Patrick is correct: negativity is “a poison to the soul and mind”. When the brain constricts it destroys. And when we judge or condemn anyone – or anything – we set ourselves up for the same and more conditions – we become “damned”. Now we are abandoning, rejecting, and abusing ourselves without any assistance necessary from others to do so. We are destroying the very flesh of our hearts.

So, what do we do about this? Some would say, “Just stop being negative!” Which of course is absurdly impossible – not just hard -- impossible --and negative, judgemental, and abandoning. It assumes that we have the ability and power to decide and do this for and by ourselves. This exaggerated sense of individual power and responsibility is essentially the central root of all separation and self-destruction.

The illness (humanness) that causes negativity is a deficiency of conscious contact with God which separates us from others and ultimately from ourselves. In this state, we are powerless – we do not have the ability to decide or choose or change. Disconnected from intimate conscious contact with our God is like a lamp being disconnected from a source of electical current. Everything seems to be there to create light – but without the presence of electricity, there is only darkness.

In my experience, it has been critical to consciously experience this condition of powerless – profoundly – or I will unconsciously try to fix and change myself – continue to poison myself with some form of negative, abandoning, conditional energy.

To the extent I have a conscious experience of my powerless, I am ready to be reconnected to the loving Presence and Care of my God. Acceptance of powerlessness opens my inner constriction enough to begin letting their Presence begin to flow into my wounded abandonments. In their Presence, my constrictions begin to subside, and I can begin to experience a “peace that passes all understanding” – beyond mental thought, and a “joy unspeakable and full of awesomeness” – unexpressable in mental words.

My God’s loving Presence begins to heal my wounded brain – and my thoughts – the fever of human shame – begins to decrease. There – in the increasing contact with my God, with myself, and with others a rebirthing begins to occur, continuing as long as I remain increasingly connected to my God. I become more and more my truest and most original self.

This healing process is relatively simple – but it is not easy. Our brains are programmed to hide possible pain and fear in layers and layers of thought and unconsciousness. In my experience, we need to develop a practice of spiritual maintenance and progressive spiritual enlightenment in order to have a life of soothing love, and unconditional acceptance.

I believe that if you read some of my other articles, you will find suggestions and directions based on my own experience, strength, and hope that will allow you to begin finding your own personal journey and destinations of higher self with God.

Daily Inspirations are about maintaining a constant conscious contact with our God through continuing connections with others’ experience, strength and hope. We are each others’ sacred messengers – angels. We need to learn how to be increasingly conscious of each others’ messages.